There is a really wise lesson imparted on us every time we fly on an airplane. Every single time we get on a plane, we are run through all of the emergency situations that could possibly occur on our trip (which we would rather not think about while strapped in a confined space about to launch into the clouds!) And then all of the safety features of the aircraft are pointed out and demonstrated with a smile.
In the midst of it all is some sage advice – not just for parents, but really anybody travelling through life – about taking care of ourselves in order to be available to help others.
Can you recall the advice? “Should the cabin pressure drop, oxygen masks will be released. If you are travelling with small children, please put the mask on yourself first and then help your children.”
Selfish? Uh uh. You’re no good to anybody if you’re dead. Basically.
I say why wait for a drop in cabin pressure, or some other heart-stopping catastrophe? Get your daily dose of oxygen or whatever it is that YOU need to stay healthy, sane, happy and able to help others.
What is that for YOU? What do YOU need a little bit of every day or on some other regular basis to stay in top form? Exercise? Water? Nutritious meals? Prayer? Meditation? Yoga? Sports? Sewing? Reading? Dancing? Laughing?
And how do you make sure you get it? First look at what’s blocking you. For many people, it’s time. Among all their other responsibilities, there is simply no time for their soul-fuel. Uh oh. That’s like the cabin pressure dropping in an airplane and someone unbuckling their seat belt and running up and down the aisles to put everyone else’s mask on…
In Tuesday Tasks, I suggest taking a good look at the way your time is spent over a 24 hour period – during the week and on a typical weekend. Really look at all 1440 minutes of the day and take note of where they are dispersed. This task is revealing for many of us who spend time engaging in activities that are not as meaningful as the amount of time we give them. And often, these are activities that we don’t realize we are investing in as much as we are…but 15 minutes here and there do add up.
When I did this task I found that much of my reading time ended up as T.V. time. By cutting out shows I gained a few hours a week!
In loving myself this week I am going to bring this knowledge to the forefront: I need daily quiet time, be it 15 minutes just breathing in the dark or 30 minutes with a good book. With my oxygen mask strapped securely on my face, I’ll be in much better form for everything and everyone else in my world.
Let us know what your soul-fuel is – and how are you getting what you need?
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Hey Taslim,
Shed some light on new moms – and trying to get a routine in place. I may have a lot of time to watch TV and clean the house in between feeds….but going to the gym (which i am longing to do) i difficult to fit in!!!!
Thanks for this …made me think about all the things I loved doing for myself but have not gotten a chance to doing it now!
Zubeen
Hi Zubeen – oh, those first few months of motherhood are especially challenging! When you have a little one reliant on your for feeds…well, that amplifies the tricky factor! In this case, you need to consider how much time you need to be out of the house to get to/from the gym and also, of course, workout! Is there a time that you can go when someone else is home to relieve you? Is there someone you can call on for those couple hours to watch the baby?
Alternatively, sometimes the idea of exercise needs to change for a little while until regular childcare is possible. There are many exercise DVDs available now that you can pop in while the baby naps…or she may be amused watching you jump around! 🙂 If you have a baby carrier that is ergonomic (I recommend the Ergo baby carrier) you can exercise with baby right on you. My favourite thing to do with the baby in the carrier? Dance and bounce to music. It may not be the same as a normal workout, but it could tide you over and create a new way to bond.
I hope this helps! It does get easier to find pockets of time when they grow a little more and I commend you for starting to consider that from now. Let’s continue this conversation if you need more ideas 🙂
Hi Taslim:
I always say the same thing what they point out on airplane safety. I guess for me, my First Aid training kiks, ooopps, kicks in…lol (The only spelling I have been using lately is KIKS..lol)
And thank you for reminding everyone. Keep up the good work.